Long Distance Relationship - Part 1

<<I am practicing my english writing, sorry if it not good =p>>

As i  said in my previous post, i am going  to write more about on how to sustain  in long distance relationship. I will try my best to put in input that might beneficial to others. And what i am about to write are based on my own experience and opinion. Others might have different views. So there is no right and wrong. Just my humble opinion. Only god knows better. 

In LDR  i manage to think of some basic rules  before you can jump into LDR. The  rules are as follow. :-)  

First rule  in ldr is to love each other. Very  simple. If you dont love each other  or maybe not sure wether u love each other or not, better break up. Ldr is for those who are love each other only. If you actually just suka2 nak bercinta, better dont waste your time and your money, because not having the correct feeling will lead to disloyalty, lying and etc especially when you are in LDR When you are far from each other it is easy not to be honest and tell lies. Besides, ldr is a big investmant in term of time and money if you want to success in it. 

Incoming post: How you will know that you love him or her

Second  rule is to set the objective. Objective in LDR is u both want to make this  relationship work. Or else what is the point you jump into this LDR. Both of you should set in your mind that you really want to ensure your relationship sustain. LDR need both of you to work together, is not one sided work. Not just try to sustain and try look how the relationship will go. If one of you is not confidence with ldr, it may lower the percentages of your relationship to sutain. It is important that u both must have same objective regarding how far the relationship will go, how you going to make this situation work out.  Or else you will be wasting your time.

So how  to achieve the second rule is communication  or maybe we can say as have a  serious conversation about how you want to go with long distance relationship. I know that some couples might have problem to have a serious discussion about relationship, especially man (just general view). Believe it or not short distance relatioship also need a serious conversation, so did ldr, really need double serious conversation. Did you know that, most of fail relationship is because of misunderstanding. Root cause of misunderstanding is miscommunication. Communication is a big chunk of topic that i can write more in details, maybe next time i will write regarding comm. 

Incoming post: Communication in relationship

Next rule  is lowering your expectation. I did a  mistake before, i am not taking this  rule seriously. I always have high expetation with my fiance, i expect that everythimg should be the same like normal short distance relationship. I always expect he will be by my side everytime i need him. You know what?, all these expectation will kill your relationship. This is because, you will get frustrated and upset when he or she cant do whateva you want. The only way to get through with it is lowering the expectation. Once you able to do this, you will find that, it is easier. 

Forth rule,.......to  be continue...